The other thing I have realized through all of this is the cruelty and capriciousness in our gay marriage laws (err, bans). As a single person, it never really hit home how cruel having one state who recognizes gay marriage and another who does not really is. You see, my co-worker married his partner a few years back. They have a house, children, cars, the picket fence. (No dog though.) Though we have never spoken about it, it pains me to think that he is facing a choice between finding a career in a different state and retaining his rights (such as they are) as a father and a husband. How many of us are asked by the government to choose between having a happy family and the financial success that encourages that happiness? How can the government say they are a family in Massachusetts but not in Utah, or Pennsylvania, or wherever?
I know people who are moving in order to find a job and support their family. It's one of the possibilities that I am considering, although I doubt I would need to move that far. If I would lose something that is part of who I am in that move, I don't know if I could do it.
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